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So what you are saying is that sex is not a beautiful thing?
Beautiful is a relative term, my friend. Beautiful in comparison to what? (I know there are little ones who read over the forum, so I'm going to try and be careful here). Compared to some sexual acts, marital sex is extraordinarily beautiful. To see a perversion or corruption of an act, and then to see the act as it was intended to be used, is like the difference between night and day. If the corruption is ugly sin, then the proper way may very well be called "beautiful" in its own way.
On the other hand, if we are comparing sexual relations and, let's say, prayer, then there is no comparison in the beauty. Prayer is communication with God, it is a link, a life line, that puts us in contact with He who is so wholly, wonderfully other and fantastic and amazing and incomprehensible that I have to use wordy sentences that make no sense just trying to awkwardly describe him! Compared with spiritual beauty, earthly beauty (even something as nice as sex) pales in comparison. I guess what I'm saying is, we shouldn't downplay sexuality so much as make sure it's in the proper place. If what I or what the Fathers say sounds anti-sex, please remember that the words are said in response to a specific situation or context.
The thing is, does not sex come from God?
This is a whole bundle of questions wrapped into one, really. It was perhaps allowed by God, but that doesn't make it good. Something being "natural" to fallen man does not make it a good thing. This is the mistake that homosexual activists make (and I'm not comparing you to them!
). They think that because something is "natural" (or someone is "born" a certain way), that this makes them ok. Using this logic, though, even sin and death would be something that is good, since we "naturally" (in our fallen human state) lean towards these, and in almost all cases come to experience these. God allows birth pains to be a part of our nature, but that doesn't mean it's a good thing just because God allows it. Sometimes God allows bad things for certain reasons.
Now, an Augustinian might say that sex is dirty, and allowed only because of necessity, and as a lesser evil. A follower (primarily) of Chrysostom would say that sex is healthy and pure, and it's totally natural and ok and to be expected that it is enjoyed. I think the answer is somewhere in the middle, though if I had to lean one way, it'd definatley be towards Chrysostom. ![Smile :)](./images/smilies/icon_smile.gif)
Here is another thing, you say that resurrected nor pre-fall man will be married or given in marriage. First, were not Adam and Eve considered married? Are they considered pre-fall man?
They were "married," but we don't know what that means. If I said that they were not married then I apologize my friend, I should have said that they were not sexually active, or "married" in the way that we think of marriage today (e.g., the type of "help mate" that Adam needed is far different from what we need today).
Second, then what is the purpose of having us get married here before the second coming of Christ? To multiply? To torture us? Why?
Working out your salvation is one reason, though there are other ways of working out your salvation. Sometimes you might get married because you are weak and do not think you can "go at" this life alone. I think you are confusing the two things though, my friend. You are seeing what is said about sexual relations, and then seeing it as having a direct relation to marriage. There are only a few reasons why married people should have sex, but there are a great deal more reasons why two people might get married. Marriage is a vast mystery (as Saint Paul says), sexuality is only a small part of this mysteriously wonderful reality of marriage (it is not the large part our society makes it out to be).
Frankly, I would be happy if I never ever fell in love with some again in my life.
Some are born celibate. And some can make themselves celibate for the kindom of heaven's sake. If this is your path, take it. If it isn't, though, don't even try to take it. And in all things, love (even if not in the "I wanna get married to her" type of way). ![Smile :)](./images/smilies/icon_smile.gif)
Why does God implant attraction\falling in love in the human condition when it was something he never intended for Heaven? Is this even from God or the result of Adam and Eve screwing things up for the rest of us?
Well, it came in after Adam and Eve messed up, but we cannot say they screwed things up for us. We screwed things up for us. It was not someone elses fault that humanity if fallen, this tries to push the blame onto others. When Adam and Eve fell, we fell; when they sinned, we sinned. As to why he allowed things to happen the way they happen, I'm not sure. Perhaps it is the best way to show us all the sides of things (pleasure, pain, wonders of birth, learning patience, forgiveness, generosity, self-sacrifice, and so forth as a child grows up, etc.). I think God deserves, in all things by necessity, the "benefit of the doubt". We may not be comfortable with some things here, but we have to trust that however things are, they can lead us to salvation if properly used/understood. So while things may seem difficult to us, or even wrong, and while we may sometimes be tempted to think that we could have designed life better than it has been given to us, we must learn to squash these thoughts. God wants to lead us into salvaiton, and gives us the best of all things, even when they seem to be (by earthly standards) the worst of all things.
Justin