James,
God bless you for searching.
I am going to generalize a bit.
Numbers have never had anything to do with the truth of a matter. Yes, we are small, but part of why we are small is because here in America, there are few who actively seek out the truth and do something about it. When they see all these (bad) things the "World" Orthodox are doing, most people just shut up. There tends to be a "don't question your hierarchs" mindset among people that keeps them where they are no matter how much heresy is in their church. Heresy and communion is top-down; if your hierarch is a heretic and you receive communion through him (his presbyters are giving it out in his name) you are saying that you have the same faith as him. For a select few (again, here in America) this is too much, and they correctly flee from those heretical hierarchs and find True Orthodox ones.
We know we are small here, especially on the West Coast. These are the days of Noah(Mt. 24:37). Right is wrong, good is bad, dark is light. In the times of St. Maximus the Confessor, he was likely the only confessing person in the Eastern Church, and at one time was apparently the ONLY confessing Christian willing to say that all the current hierarchs of his time were heretics. There are many good orthodox people who cannot make the jump out of fear and out of appearances. They too see our small size and run the other way.
We are out of touch -with The World. We have chosen to make Christ and the truth of His Gospel the focus of our lives. Many others in the main-line Orthodox churches have done so as well, but as I said they cannot make the jump. The world is a crazy, crazy place and we choose to make the Church our heavenly homeland rather than to "fit in". If we have to be persecuted then we will ( and are! ) endure for the sake of the True Gospel. There is only One Church, which has all the revealed truth that Christ gave to His Apostles and was delivered once to the saints. Christ and His Apostles warned us about false shepherds, and we see them. We were not warned in order to do nothing about it; we were warned so that we would stay away.
This is not historically new, as I gave you just one example with St. Maximus. The Church has been spread throughout the world, and the True Church has its remnants around. They are underground in some areas (again, with historical precedent) and above in others. They are large in numbers in some locales, but smaller in others. This does not negate the Truth of the Orthodox Church. After all, wasn't the Church still True even when it was only in a handful of communities on the East Coast, and in a few people in Alaska a couple hundred years ago in the time of St. Herman? Wasn't the faith True when it was only in a few people such as the Theotokos and the Apostles?
As I said, we are in historically precedented times as far as our size. What is unprecedented is the heresy of Ecumenism, which teaches that the only truth is there is no truth at all. Every heresy in the past proclaimed their truth to be THE truth against all others. This heresy stirs people's hearts and their emotions, and these emotions blind them to an objective view of what is right.
The Truth of Christ is more than numbers. God grant you wisdom to see what is right and do what is God-pleasing. Pray for us all, and for all those who are seeking the True faith. I believe that it will only get more difficult soon. Do what you can, as God allows, and may He bless you.