khomes wrote:This is my wife's and my own main concern when looking at the True Orthodox Churches. We see divisions and sometime the mentaility of "i dont like you, im joining/making my own church". My wife says, to her, it seems like Orthodox protestantism. This is a very hard aspect for us to accept. Any advice ir suggestions. Any help would be appriciated
Well, that's not the only attitude present. There have been sincere and successful movements to unify the jurisdictions. For example, earlier this year, my jurisdiction, the GOC under Archbishop Kallinikos, formally united with three other jurisdictions: the Synod in Resistance under Metropolitan Cyprian of Fili, the GOC of Romania, and the remnant of ROCOR under Metropolitan Agafangel of Odessa. The American part of the GOC itself united with most of HOCNA over the previous years. The entire GOC itself is the product of the union of various factions in the mid-1980s, and recently we also reunited with some bishops that had refrained from joining that union, as well as some that created a new faction in the 1990s. It is a staple of World Orthodox propaganda that the True Orthodox are only ever splitting, never uniting, but this is simply false.
So mainly I think your problem is an incorrect understanding of GOC history that is too focused on the negative and probably too influenced by New Calendarist polemics about the True Orthodox. For a more positive understanding, I recommend this excerpt from a forthcoming book by the owner of E Cafe, Anastasios Hudson. There and elsewhere on his site he lays to rest many common concerns about our church.