Dear Ludmilla,
Much of what you say is absolutely correct - we must self sensor and we are judged by what we say and don't say.
However, to the pure all things are pure - we Christians are fundamentally ignorant. St. Maximos book is excellent, and somewhat suprising. His answers before the Senate sounded more like Milton than anything I would have dared utter.
We lack information and ability to judge motivation, hearts and for the most part - whether something is or is not of God. That takes a special Grace we should not claim too soon. It takes patience and time - and with respect to Milton, I have no idea. There is a process spoken of in the Holy Gospels that goes from privately informing, and gently speaking - to going with witnesses, to then going to the Church.
However, exposing a past medical condition is frowned upon, even by the law courts - and was beyond any bounds of propriety.
your in Christ Jesus,
andy - the fundamentally ignorant