Priest Dionysi,
Maybe as a layman in ROCOR you were not aware of ROCOR's real position?
First section written by John Hudanish, starosta of Our Lady of Kursk Chapel in Woodburn, Oregon.
"The anathema we have proclaimed is de jure a manifestation of a purely local character of the Russian Church Abroad. . ."
"No Orthodox body outside the Russian Church Abroad is bound by it, just as the anathema against the three-fingered sign of the cross proclaimed by the Council of the One Hundred Chapters (Moscow, 1552) was not binding on the Greeks at that time. About all our Russian Church Abroad can do is to refrain from concelebrating with or admitting to the Holy Mysteries the clergy and laity of those Orthodox jurisdictions which appear to be involved in the ecumenist heresy. Our bishops have no authority to discipline any but their own." (pp. 8-9)
This section written by Fr.John Whiteford some years ago after the HOCNA schism:
Metropolitan Vitaly confirmed this as the official view of the Church on the 1983 Anathema in his recent Nativity Epistle. In it he also clearly stated that those individual Synod clergymen who, in isolated incidents, have concelebrated with clergy of ecumenist or new-calendar jurisdictions have done so by economy. In this Epistle, Metropolitan Vitaly wrote:
"We proclaimed an anathema against ecumenism only for the children of our Church, but by this we very humbly but firmly, gently but decisively, as if invite the local churches to stop and think. This is the role of our most small, humble, half-persecuted, always alert, but true Church.
We, de facto, do not serve with either new-calendarists or ecumenists, but if someone of our clergy, by economy, would presume to such a concelebration, this fact alone in no way influences our standing in the truth."